I want to have a sugar coated tongue?

i am a guy. i dont want to ask ladies out instead the opposite. i want to develop a sugar coated tongue. also there are poeople i see that i intend to ask out but i can nopt ask them out because the level of intimacy we have developed is becoming a barrier. i want to start asking ladies out but not lying to them with the name of love when i know that i am just infatuating. even the asking of from a girl makes me shy. is it good for aa girlfriend to take money from you after . thanks